Recently I've received so many emails, texts, quotes, & comments about the Holidays & people's emotional state. I've tried to be positive with each person that I've encountered letting them know that they are not alone & that Tis the Season for these types of feelings. Though it doesn't make it easier for anyone when you’re in the midst of it. Within the last couple of years with Covid we have seen & heard of more death than ever. Which makes the Holiday even harder, than they’ve ever been. They are typically emotional for many reasons. Whether it's because of the financial stress or, missing loved ones who have passed or even ones who just aren't in your life anymore. Many times it makes it hard to get through due to the stress of you focusing on what the prior years were like. Here are some examples of things that have been said by fellow Real Girls...
> From The Sisterhood :
* I lost my Mother, my Father, My Child, A close friend, or A relationship
* I lost my job & now Christmas is here & I'm worried about providing for my children
* I lost my job
* I'm just lonely
* I'm sad & don't know why
* I'm just in a funk
There are a series of things and reasons that seem to depress people during the Holiday's which is supposed to be a joyous time. People sometimes set up unrealistic expectations in their minds about how special the Holidays are supposed to be which also leads to depression and disappointment. Since the Holidays are typically a time we spend with loved ones, the first Holiday after a loved ones passing can trigger feelings of depression, grief, & loss. Another big issue is feeling that you are not going to be able to support or appreciate the people you love. So many people have lost their jobs due to the Pandemic & are still unemployed or have taken lesser jobs than they previously had due to the state of the job market.
My Advice:
Sis, first and foremost know that you are not alone & this is all completely normal. There are some things that we can do to get through these times. Knowing that when you’re in it there seems to feel like there’s no way out, but there is. The sun will shine again, so here’s a couple of things to do, to make it through this season.
It’s ok to cry & be sad, just don’t stay there.
Celebrate your lost loved one, remember the good times, cherish them & create new traditions honoring them.
Go out, go on a walk, get outdoors, get some exercise, just do not seclude yourself.
Volunteer: Do something for others, selflessness is the most humble gift.
Do not make the Holidays about money give what you can, how you can, & when you can.
All & all know that this is just a Season, a moment & it won’t last. So take your time, relax, take a breath & you will get through this chapter and make it to your next.
What say you Tribe? What words of encouragement, quotes, memes, poems, or pictures do you have for all of our Real Girls who are currently suffering in silence & going through this Holiday Season……
Wow great post, you hit it right on the nail!❤️
ReplyDeleteThank you Sis!
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