Hey Hay Hey Realz! I’m Back like the little Elf on the shelf @ Christmas time 😘 with a good one as per usual ready to stimulate your brain, pull at your heart and even give you a new prospective or confirmation. Have you ever heard of the word NONNEGOTIABLE? Well, here we go because I’ve have to use this word way too often to some Realz lately.
We All need to find these immediately! Set some boundaries Realz our lives, relationships, mental health depend on it, But if we don’t know what they are how will they?
Nonnegotiable: Dictionary
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adjective
1. not open to discussion or modification."the essential features of the constitution are nonnegotiable"
* (of a document) not able to be transferred or assigned to the legal ownership of another person.
In relation to relationships:
A relationship non-negotiable is a boundary that helps you connect with people who share your core values, whether that's about certain personality traits or outlooks on marriage. This can help you find a respectful and healthy relationship where your past, present, and future align.
Here’s a Sample Starter Nonnegotiable List: Yours May & Should vary based on your personal morals, values & beliefs are, but it’s definitely a great list to start with:
1. Respect
2. Commitment
3. Passion
4. Family
5. Finances
6. Future
7. Ignorance
8. Boundaries
9. Confidence
10. Abuse
11. Empathy
12. Intimacy
13. Friendship
14. Selfishness
15. Cheating
16. Substance abuse and addictions
17. Core values
18. Trust & dependability
19. No sense of humor
20. Negativity
So Realz sometimes we have to teach people how to treat us & sometimes if we are hiring we only need to hire people that have the qualifications that fit the job that we are hiring for 🤷🏽♀️, but if you don’t know what those qualifications are how can you accept applications so Realz??? Where’s your Nonnegotiable/ qualifications list for what you want and need to be happy, healthy, & whole???
What say you Tribe what’s your Nonnegotiables?????
Sistas!
ReplyDeleteThis is a profound topic!!
I became familiar with this term (non-negotiable) in therapy about a decade ago.
It's setting boundaries and standing "Flat Footed" on the decisions that you make concerning "YOU."
While parenting, our children (they are now adults) understood that there were things that we as parents were not tolerating, under no circumstances; like disrespect, hitting, cussing, bullying, etc.
I believe that sometimes we waiver in our non-negotiable stance and lose the firmness behind our decisions when they are viewed by others as unpopular, unrealistic, or antiquated.
Let's hold tight to our non-negotiables and stand strong in our core values.
We will develop healthier relationships and become more relationally intelligent.
#YoSistaAngi