So Sis: This month me & my mate are doing an exercise which consists of a 28-day love challenge. Every day we do a task to learn more about each other. The premise is that by month-end hopefully we'd gain a better understanding & fall deeper in love with each other. Well, day (10) was about Discussing childhood experiences both good & bad. Well, this brought about some troubling details in my mate's life. Which just really brought his day to a screeching halt as he thought about some negative details of his childhood that shaped the person he is today. As I listened to him, I could hear the pain as he explained the stories & I could also see the hurt in his eyes. When it was my turn I shared, but not as much because I saw that after he spoke his energy had changed so drastically. I didn't have the picture-perfect childhood either. Do you think that some of these things that he spoke about could be the reason for some of our issues today or am I overthinking it?
RGP Answer: Sis, it's most definitely the reason for your relationship issues today! So here are 12 classic signs of Unresolved childhood issues & trauma in Adults:
1) Difficulty forming relationships/Attachment issues
2) Anxiety and depression
3) Inability to cope with routined stressful life events
4) Low self-esteem
5) Poor academic achievement/Learning disability
6) Substance dependence/Addiction behaviors of any sort
7) Hyperactive or constantly on edge
8) Constantly ill or sick
9) Have attempted suicide
10) Have a bad memory/poor concentration
11) Struggle with obesity
12) Engage in high-risk behavior
I know that this seems like a lot of bad & painful stuff, but all is not lost. There are many ways to help treat Unresolved Childhood Trauma. I’ve listed some common ones below.
To treat:
1. Talk to a Mental Health Professional
2. Quantum Healing Hypnosis Technique (QHHT)
3. Community Support Groups
4. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
5. Excercise, Yoga, Reiki
All in all Sis, the positive & negative experiences that we have all been through mold us. It makes us who we are good & bad. There are great things that happened in his childhood that made you fall in love with him so help him iron out those things that the little him wasn’t in control of or responsible for so you both can have a happy healthy future.
Hey Tribe care to chime in & help Sis with a word? I bet she’d appreciate it & so would I! 😘
This is a good start with understanding our foundation-then expressing it-not repressing, so that the couple can be stronger together.
ReplyDeleteThank YOu Sis!
DeleteSometimes we never understand where our "ways" come from. Yes, some things are genetics. But oftentimes, it's through our experiences growing up.This article hit home for me.When you're in therapy they may have you reach back in time & when you do, you will see things that you: choose to block out, didn't realize you blocked out & didn't even know was there. Your patience with your mate to study & hear her/his cry in their body language & voice, shows your concern. The selfless act to deny your own pains of youth to be there for your mate is beautiful. This article has me looking back & I will use this to fuel healing in my life.Thank You Sis. "1999"
ReplyDeleteSis & I appreciate the support Anonymous 😘 Thanks for the feedback!
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