So Sis, my circle thinks that I should drop my friend, but I won't. We are a group & there's always that one friend that has some issues. Well, while everyone else has pretty much written her off I continue to be her friend. Everyone thinks that she should be banished from the group, but I won't no matter what. Although I sit and listen to the advice, stories, and reasons & many of them are valid. I just don't agree, so I'm gonna do me & stick beside her. I'm a loyal friend if anything else. Although Sis hasn't been as great of a friend. I'm going to stick it out. What do you think Sis?
RGP Answer; Well per the internet the qualities of a good best friend are:
Honesty
Acceptance
Low-Maintenance
Non-Judgmental
Loyalty
Respect
Trustworthiness
Kindness
Adventurous
Playfulness
Protective
A Good Listener
Open-Hearted
I completely agree Sis, stick beside her because the same chicks that are telling you to head for the hills on Sis are the same ones who will stick by their "Mans" & allow him a thousand last chances. You really don't know you may be the only Real One Sis has in her corner. EveryOne needs a tribe no matter how big or small. Now understand me, Sis, I'm not saying to be anyone's doormat or stay to your own detriment. Just like I wouldn't tell you to stick by your significant other in the same manner. You must always choose YOu & your mental health 1st. Just be real a friend & know what that is. Not just being someone's mirror. You cannot cosign someone's bs, give then excues for their behavior, for their past, for their abuse of YOu as a friend. Because that's not friendship HONESTY is most important. So all in all speak to Sis in love, respect, & honesty let her know & maybe she will learn from her mistakes. Counting her out before giving Sis the space & opportunity to get it right might not be the right thing to do!
But, what says YOu Tribe? Do you'll have an experiences, advice, stories, tidbits, or words of encouragement for Sis??
Anyways important to follow what you believe and your values, if you know the value you have on someone’s life, don’t just throw them away because they do not make as big as an impact in yours
ReplyDeleteI absolutely love that insight! VALUE.....
DeleteI try to meet people where they "are".
ReplyDeleteRelationships can be empowering and inspiring, as well as toxic and dysfunctional. When I was younger, I spent a lot of time with toxic and emotional vampire individuals out of loyalty.
Now that I am older and understand the true value of a great friend. I am drawn to positive, goal oriented persons.
Now, I don't throw anyone away; everyone is due time to grow, but I limit interaction and access with them for my peace of mind.
YoSista💚
Yes, Supporting rom a distance sometimes, but Protecting Your peace is so important Sis. Thank YOu for that POV…
DeleteGreat topic! It is possible that the other person is being the best friend they are capable of becoming. Maybe. It’s up to you to decide if you are willing to accept that or not and to what extent. If other people don’t really deal with this person like that, what are the reasons? Are they valid? Could you see them possibly doing the same thing to you? Is it better to stick around and find out or just deal with them at a distance? People will always reveal their true character over time. Good or bad. It’s up to us to pay attention.
ReplyDeleteTrue Story Sis, I so appreciate your point of view. This is such a great way of looking at it. Thank you! 😘
DeleteWhen you think about it, do you keep her around because of who YOU are? Or is she around because of who she is to you? Always analyze why you keep people in your life. What is it that everyone else sees that they're telling you?
ReplyDeleteThat’s definitely something to look at. Why do we keep certain people in our lives? Even when we know they’re toxic? Sometimes it is for them genuinely, but subconsciously I guess sometimes theirs is a need to fix or help people or make yourself feel or look better. There could be a popery of reasons, but you definitely need to take some time to reflect. Because it’s not healthy you you or that person if you’re not in it for the right reason’s.
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