“It Just Clicked in my head that he doesn't even care !”

Well, well, well; Realz I know it's been a minute too long so this is a collab of some issues in my inbox. Please speak on it, as it takes a tribe, a village hey that's why we are here!

So here we go; # 1. Young Lady Gets Emotional on Social Media Sharing How She Was Excited And Got All Dressed Up For A Guy, Only For The Dude To Not Even Bring Up The Plans They Made And Avoid The Topic. As she broke down she said “It Just Clicked In My Head That He Doesn't Care." # 2. “I've  literally dated this guy for 3 months and then when I brought up titles, he told me that he wasn’t ready for a relationship.” # 3. “I feel like I always give much more than I get in relationships.” # 4.  “My husband has not touched me in over a year why am I still here?” # 5. “I want to love somebody so bad at this point I just think I settle for anything.” # 6. “We women get hurt, cry & move on right? That's just what we do!”

So saith the World Wide Web: There are 21 simple signs that man or mate doesn't care, here they are.

1. He shows no respect while talking to you 2. He cheats on you 3. He is always busy and unavailable 4. He makes you do stuff for him but does nothing for you 5. He does not care to remember important dates 6. He does not pay for anything 7. He seldom calls you first 8. He does not discuss his plans with you 9. He does not seek your opinion 10. He remembers you only when he needs something 11. He avoids sleeping with you 12. He is always glued to his phone 13. He does not try to make time for you 14. He does not make you feel special 15. He puts in no effort to keep the relationship going 16. He does not bother to make up after a fight 17. He has no interest in your life 18. He shows interest in other women 19. He is fine with your closeness with other men 20. He does not seem protective of you anymore 21. He abuses you

So Saith Me: So as for me, I’ll touch on each story a little bit and just give my humble opinion. # 1. The young girl had a breakdown on social media. She took two or three hours to get dressed. Got her hair & nails done anticipating seeing this boy. She was supposed to see him around 4 o’clock around 6 o’clock the guy started texting her and talking about random stuff, completely skipping over the fact that they had a date. She got on live expressing her feelings about the fact that she got all dressed up pretty for him and as women we put so much time and effort into making ourselves beautiful for guys but right at that moment, it clicked in her head that she did all of this for a man that didn’t even care about her as women. When does it click in our head that sometimes we’re putting all of this effort in for someone who doesn’t even care about us? # 2. All I'm going to say for number two is we need to set boundaries and limitations for ourselves. If we don’t people will run all over us in relationships people will only do what you allow them to do so have rules and standards set for yourself.  # 3. Balance is always key.  I look at a relationship as buckets,  spiritually, emotionally mentally, sexually physically, and financially.  not at every moment will you be able to fill each bucket but as long as you all are balancing each other’s buckets, then your relationship will be balanced you cannot always fill your mate's buckets while they are depleting yours.  # 4. That’s a question that only you can answer you know what your marriage is built on and clearly, there is more than the sexual bucket that is being filled. # 5. Never Settle! there’s somebody out there for you that will be everything that you need. # 6.  That is what we do but we shouldn’t have to. 

What say YOu Tribe? Help Sis out give your words of wisdom, encouragement, a joke, a prayer, an uplifting comment something that you can pass along to ease the distress that they may be feeling. To help make it through the next moment of discomfort.