Gender Roles~ Does it Really Matter?

Hey Realz!!!! Long time no write, life has been lifing, but Im still here....

Soooo, Gender Roles this one is going to cover a couple of different issues, conversation topics, areas & questions in my inbox rolled up into one!

Well Ms. Google defines Gender Roles as the following :

A gender role, or sex role, is a set of socially accepted behaviors and attitudes deemed appropriate or desirable for individuals based on their sex. Gender roles are usually centered on conceptions of masculinity and femininity, although there are exceptions and variations. The specifics regarding these gendered expectations may vary among cultures, while other characteristics may be common throughout a range of cultures. In addition, gender roles (and perceived gender roles) vary based on a person's race or ethnicity. Gender roles can impact relationships by creating expectations and perceptions about how men and women should behave. These roles can vary across cultures and societies, but traditional gender roles often depict women as caregivers and homemakers, while men are seen as providers and protectors:

So here’s the Realz list of Problemz & My Real Girl Answer.

* My man constantly treats our children differently based on their gender. The responsibility, expectations, & favoritism is obvious. Well, Sis, Whilst parents may not intend to treat their sons and daughters differently, research shows that they do. Sons appear to get preferential treatment in that they receive more helpful praise, more time is invested in them, and their abilities are often thought of in higher regard. Though We may not mean to You already know it's wrong. Especially if it’s this obvious. Parents plant the seed & foundation for our kids to grow & we need to be mindful of that. Try to help him understand that.

* Why do Mamas baby their sons? 1. Emotional attachment: Mothers may have a strong emotional attachment to their sons, especially if they are the only child or the youngest child. This can sometimes lead to behaviors that appear to be overprotective or overly nurturing. 2. Cultural or societal norms: In some cultures or families, there may be specific expectations regarding the roles of mothers and sons. Some mothers may feel it is their duty to take care of their sons no matter how old they are. 3. Fear of letting go: Some mothers may struggle with the idea of their sons growing up and becoming independent adults. Pampering their sons could be a way for them to hold on to the role of caregiver and protector. 4. Guilt or compensation: Some mothers may feel guilty about past behaviors or circumstances and may overcompensate by pampering their sons. This could be due to various reasons such as divorce, absence during childhood, or other challenging circumstances. 5. Lack of boundaries: In some cases, the mother-son relationship may lack clear boundaries, leading to behaviors that seem excessive or inappropriate. 6. Enabling behavior: Sometimes, mothers may unknowingly enable their sons by being overly indulgent, which can prevent them from developing necessary life skills and independence.

* I’m thinking about moving in with my partner. How does that work as far as paying bills? Who pays what? I think it should totally be up to the people who are in the relationship different things work for different people. When determining who pays in a partnership, communication is important. Couples must have an open and honest discussion about their financial condition, their desires, and their expectations. If you do this upfront, it’ll eliminate any confusion, tension, or argument in the future. 

* Do gender roles exist in same-sex relationships? Though I’m the more masculine one should I be responsible for everything a man would typically do? Research suggests that same-sex couples have more equal relationships than their heterosexual counterparts and share more childcare responsibilities. Nevertheless, one person still tends to end up doing more of the chores. This shouldn’t be in any relationship you need to have great communication so there is understanding and one person doesn’t get burned out from being overburdened by anything. 

* How do I set guidelines & boundaries in my relationship ignoring gender roles? Be calm, firm, and clear about what you need. Have clear and reasonable expectations.

What Say You Tribe? What words of wisdom & or encouragement, do you have for the Realz experiencing things like these?